Okay, so Nav and I have decided to take babysteps into the world of swinging. I don't really know if it's 100% swinging we want to do or not. All things swinging that I've read on these threads (I've been reading non stop just about all day about everything ever posted, it seems) we're interested in, but also the whole 'seeing other people' as well.
I'm the one that brought up this whole lifestyle and expressed me wanting to do it. Nav is on board, but still a little iffy. All day long he's been doing the whole, "I'm not sure if it's a good idea because I don't want you to be mad or jealous." Okay, not a problem, we talked it out and have officially established that if I was going to get mad or jealous, I wouldn't have suggested it, right? Right. We set out some basic groud rules to start off (I know more will be added). I thought they were pretty reasonable rules to start off with.
1. I want us to be included in everything. If you go find some girl and want to sleep with her, fine, just keep me included. I don't necessarily have to be in the room/house/hotel/whatever, just keep me informed. I want to know everything and vice versa.
2. No one we know personally/work with/go to school with.
3. If you're doing it with someone one on one, not in my house.
4. Never when the kids are around, no exceptions.
All of these rules go for both of us, no exceptions.
Okay, so I'm not mad/jealous, just a little miffed that he's breaking a rule. Here's the deal:
He met a female online and has been chatting with her for about three hours now. Fine, more power to him. I'm excited for him, know what I mean? The issue is, he's blatantly ignoring me. I can talk right to him (we're in the same room, he's on one computer, I'm on the other, just sitting so we can't exactly see the other's screen) and he ignores me. Is this not "keeping me in communication with what's going on"? Is this going to be a long running issue?
And honestly, it probably wouldn't even be something I'd bring up except for the fact that I'm over here, reading threads on this website, and every so often he's over here wanting to know what I'm looking at and why I'm looking at it (and not in an interesting 'whatcha doin?' kind of way) and I'm just letting him do his thing.
Does this mean we're doomed and should give up on this whole lifestyle? Or do I speak up now and nip it in the bud?
I'm so sorry if this seems like a petty thing. We're very secure in our marriage and communicative. I just want to be 'in the know' and I don't feel like I am. I want to start off with this on the right foot. I want it to be a fun thing for us that we enjoy, not something that I'm going to be opened about with my experiences and he's going to be secretive...