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cqwest · 06-08-2006, 10:04 AM

Thank you for all the replies. There is some very good advise here.

I have asked her if we could go to get some counceling together and her response is that she does'nt like or trust councelers. She does have some medical problems that she is working on, and I understand that right now sex probably is a little uncomfortable for her. That is'nt the problem though. I can and have gone without sex with her for a long periods of time. It's just I see no hope of any change in her attitude about it. She has been on hormone tharapy for a while and it seemed like she could think more clearly, but it really did'nt help with her sex drive. I have tried being romantic. I have tried not putting any sexual stress on her at all. Ive tried being spontainious. Sometimes if she thinks I'm at my wits end she will put a little effort into it for a week or so, but as soon as I start to feel like maybe there is some hope she stops trying. I get to where I avoid having sex with her because I'm bored, and I try not to make it seem that way. The thing is she knows that I always want to make love to her. I am not only in love with her but also in lust with her. I don't feel I need to swing with her to have a good sex life. I just want her to take some some initiative. She will snuggle close to me but her actions are like a highschool girl who has never been with a man before. She is in her early 50's and I just feel like she should be able to express herself better than that sexually. She is a very loving person, and it is obvious that she loves me dearly. I just feel that I have tried everything I can think of to stimulate her into something other " missonary sex ". I do have a high sex drive, but I have never imposed that on her. The straw that broke the camels back for me was... over the weekend she saw a dress in an ad and pointed it out to me and i said that yes I thought it was very nice but I would love her to but something a little more reveiling sometime. She looked at me and said " oh grow up". I feel like there is nothing else I can do. Maybe it would help if I got some counceling, but I feel that my only option if I want a sex life is to tell her I need to get it somewhere else because she just isn't interested.

06-08-2006, 10:04 AM	#13 (permalink)
cqwest Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 21 Location: Az Status: M. Male Swing Lifestyle Name:cqwest	Re: Giving up on wife Thank you for all the replies. There is some very good advise here. I have asked her if we could go to get some counceling together and her response is that she does'nt like or trust councelers. She does have some medical problems that she is working on, and I understand that right now sex probably is a little uncomfortable for her. That is'nt the problem though. I can and have gone without sex with her for a long periods of time. It's just I see no hope of any change in her attitude about it. She has been on hormone tharapy for a while and it seemed like she could think more clearly, but it really did'nt help with her sex drive. I have tried being romantic. I have tried not putting any sexual stress on her at all. Ive tried being spontainious. Sometimes if she thinks I'm at my wits end she will put a little effort into it for a week or so, but as soon as I start to feel like maybe there is some hope she stops trying. I get to where I avoid having sex with her because I'm bored, and I try not to make it seem that way. The thing is she knows that I always want to make love to her. I am not only in love with her but also in lust with her. I don't feel I need to swing with her to have a good sex life. I just want her to take some some initiative. She will snuggle close to me but her actions are like a highschool girl who has never been with a man before. She is in her early 50's and I just feel like she should be able to express herself better than that sexually. She is a very loving person, and it is obvious that she loves me dearly. I just feel that I have tried everything I can think of to stimulate her into something other " missonary sex ". I do have a high sex drive, but I have never imposed that on her. The straw that broke the camels back for me was... over the weekend she saw a dress in an ad and pointed it out to me and i said that yes I thought it was very nice but I would love her to but something a little more reveiling sometime. She looked at me and said " oh grow up". I feel like there is nothing else I can do. Maybe it would help if I got some counceling, but I feel that my only option if I want a sex life is to tell her I need to get it somewhere else because she just isn't interested.