[blondie77]

I have to agree with suncouple........see a marriage counsler right away. Before you find yourself cheating! If she won't go with you, go alone. But please, go. I think you really need to sit down and have a serious discussion with her. There HAS to be a reason why she isn't interested in sex...I just don't think that's natural, no matter if you're vanilla or swinger. Something is wrong here and I think only a professional can help you, IMO. Sit down with her, explain that you love her, that you want to be faithful to her, but that you have needs. Explain that you also know that she must have needs to, and that it's important to you and to your marriage that you both get what you need and want. Explain that you miss being close to her, that you miss the intimacy, the closeness, the loving...hell, the SEX! I really hope she agrees to go to counseling with you...let us know how it goes.