[blondie77]

I agree with the above posts.....your husband comes first. It's that simple. He has a need that isn't being met...he's asked you to share the details and you've denied him. He's let you know that he's not comfortable with your keeping intimate details from him, yet you stand by your lover. You need to ask yourself one question: If this was your husband in the situation, if he was the one having sex with another woman and refused to share the details with you because the other woman wasn't comfortable with it, how would you feel? You are putting this other man before your marriage. This other mans feelings might be valid, and of course you need to respect him, but in asking you to keep something from your husband, this man is NOT respecting you, your husband or your marriage. Don't be selfish...this is your husbands fantasy too, why are you leaving him out of it?