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cqwest · 06-08-2006, 01:32 AM

I love my wife. We've been married for 13yrs. When we were dating and then lived together she was excited about sex. She would be somewhat adventurous. Then we got married and all that stopped. I have been patient now for 13 yrs. My ex and I were into swinging and I have always wanted to get back into it. I knew that I could'nt push Deb my (my wife now ) into it and have never pushed or really even brought it up for fear of completely offending her. The thing is she does'nt want to do anything to spice up our sexlife at all. I am bored to tears. I would rather masturbate than to have sex with her because it's more exciting.I have tried to have honest conversations a number of times over the years about things we could do to add some life to our sexual activities. There is nothing that interest her but kissing. That is the only answer I get from her When I ask her what would get her more excited about it. When we have talked about sex it has always got to be very clinical terminology or it offends. I have tried to romance her. I have tried to get her drunk. I've even tried doing all the work around the house, like dishes, cooking, laundry, taking care of our child so she can go out and have fun. I spent $600 for a day at a very exclusive spa, then took her to Sanfransico for dinner and to spend the night in a beautiful hotel suite. Nothing works. I don't expect her to swing (although that would be nice) I just want her to act like she actually wants to make love with me instead of it being a chore, or " her wifely duty ". I never had a woman be unhappy with my lovemaking before. I have an 8" cock that is fairly thick. I love romance and oral sex. I love to take my time. I just don't understand what the problem is. She has given up wearing anything sexy at all saying "that is'nt me". I went out and bought her some sex toys thinking maybe it might start a fantasy for her. She would'nt even touch them saying again " that is'nt me ".

She told me a long time ago that if I were going to fool around on her to please tell her first. Well I think that's what I going to do. I don't want a divorce because I love her and we have worked hard to build a life together. We are happy in just about every other way. I would like to here comments or suggestions. Please I am desparate at this point to bring some excitement into my, or our sex life.

Thanks for listening.

06-08-2006, 01:32 AM	#1 (permalink)
cqwest Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 21 Location: Az Status: M. Male Swing Lifestyle Name:cqwest	Giving up on wife I love my wife. We've been married for 13yrs. When we were dating and then lived together she was excited about sex. She would be somewhat adventurous. Then we got married and all that stopped. I have been patient now for 13 yrs. My ex and I were into swinging and I have always wanted to get back into it. I knew that I could'nt push Deb my (my wife now ) into it and have never pushed or really even brought it up for fear of completely offending her. The thing is she does'nt want to do anything to spice up our sexlife at all. I am bored to tears. I would rather masturbate than to have sex with her because it's more exciting.I have tried to have honest conversations a number of times over the years about things we could do to add some life to our sexual activities. There is nothing that interest her but kissing. That is the only answer I get from her When I ask her what would get her more excited about it. When we have talked about sex it has always got to be very clinical terminology or it offends. I have tried to romance her. I have tried to get her drunk. I've even tried doing all the work around the house, like dishes, cooking, laundry, taking care of our child so she can go out and have fun. I spent $600 for a day at a very exclusive spa, then took her to Sanfransico for dinner and to spend the night in a beautiful hotel suite. Nothing works. I don't expect her to swing (although that would be nice) I just want her to act like she actually wants to make love with me instead of it being a chore, or " her wifely duty ". I never had a woman be unhappy with my lovemaking before. I have an 8" cock that is fairly thick. I love romance and oral sex. I love to take my time. I just don't understand what the problem is. She has given up wearing anything sexy at all saying "that is'nt me". I went out and bought her some sex toys thinking maybe it might start a fantasy for her. She would'nt even touch them saying again " that is'nt me ". She told me a long time ago that if I were going to fool around on her to please tell her first. Well I think that's what I going to do. I don't want a divorce because I love her and we have worked hard to build a life together. We are happy in just about every other way. I would like to here comments or suggestions. Please I am desparate at this point to bring some excitement into my, or our sex life. Thanks for listening.