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starryeyes · 06-06-2006, 09:36 PM

You are being a good friend and letting them know what is in store should they proceed while thier relationship is on thin ice. A good friend would tell them the truth, even when it hurts... they of course will make the final choice. They seem to be looking for that quick fix to problems that are deep rooted. The sad part is that by going into the lifestyle for the wrong reasons, others will become collateral damage.
We for one would not want to have any part in a break up/divorce, we would feel horrible.

Like Curious says "if you want to salvage the friendship your best bet is to let them know that you will be there for them no matter what they chose to do BUT you want nothing to do with it from any standpoint other than a friend. Then your not really stuck in the middle."

If and when they are back on terra firma and they are proceeding as a couple with with clear heads and with honest hearts, lots of communication, then they may be able to test the waters and see if it is for them.

We wish you well. We wish them well.

06-06-2006, 09:36 PM	#6 (permalink)
starryeyes Here to Stay Join Date: Aug 2004 Posts: 99 Location: El Paso, TX Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:starryeyes	Re: Vanilla friends who express and interest in swinging... You are being a good friend and letting them know what is in store should they proceed while thier relationship is on thin ice. A good friend would tell them the truth, even when it hurts... they of course will make the final choice. They seem to be looking for that quick fix to problems that are deep rooted. The sad part is that by going into the lifestyle for the wrong reasons, others will become collateral damage. We for one would not want to have any part in a break up/divorce, we would feel horrible. Like Curious says "if you want to salvage the friendship your best bet is to let them know that you will be there for them no matter what they chose to do BUT you want nothing to do with it from any standpoint other than a friend. Then your not really stuck in the middle." If and when they are back on terra firma and they are proceeding as a couple with with clear heads and with honest hearts, lots of communication, then they may be able to test the waters and see if it is for them. We wish you well. We wish them well.