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Old 06-01-2006, 06:13 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Juli69
My husband feels like it is his "right" to know the details of what we do simply because he is my husband that loves me. He can't understand why I would even want to keep certain things from him. He feels like I am putting the wants of my partner above his wants. My husband says to just tell me the details, and what my partner doesn't know won't hurt him, and in that way nobodies feelings are hurt.
Honey, who are you married to here? As your husband, he SHOULD have the right to know. When you are putting this other man's feelings at the same priority level as your husband's, it makes me wonder...what is the difference between this other man and your husband? Because the fact that you are married to one and not the other doesn't seem to count for anything.

When you don't make your husband's feelings a priority over this other man's - who has absolutely nothing invested in you beyond some good sex - you are choosing this other man over your husband. Think about it.
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