 Re: First time and need advice
I would have to agree with the others, this doesn't sound like swinging, but an open relationship. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, as long as both spouses are aware and okay with it. Its just a semantic thing like Chiccup said is all.
I can't tell you what you should do, frankly I am not in that position, but I can tell you what I would do. First, if my husband had a question, no matter how the other partner felt, my husband would get his answer. Second, if this other partner is wanting secrets kept from your husband, I would politely point out, that my husband and I have no secrets from each other at all, and I will not agree to such terms with "a guest" in my bed. Your husband is your husband, all others equal guests. Which means your husband comes first and foremost. Thirdly, if my other partner could not or would not accept this, he would not be my other partner for long.
No one, whether involved in swinging or in open relationships, should ask you to keep secrets from your spouse. If they do and they cannot respect you when you say you won't do that, then maybe they don't respect the relationship you have with your spouse. And for me, at least, if you don't respect my spouse, you don't respect me either. Which is an automatic bye bye.
Just my opinion, for whatever its worth.
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