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Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple Maybe they are trying to equate friendship and sex together. Much like when people are younger they equate sex and love together? |
This statement is profound and I think you're right.
When I was younger I saw sex as an expression of the sentiment "I LOVE YOU!!"
After a couple of girlfriends and my wife coming along and introducing me to the concept of guiltlessly fucking your friends, I started to see sex as an expression of the sentiment "I REALLY LIKE YOU!!" At that point I could more clearly see the distinction between fucking and making love.
After swinging for a while I'm starting to see a new concept, guiltlessly fucking strangers. Sex isn't even an expression of "I REALLY LIKE YOU!!" any more. Now it's just "I'M HUNGRY FOR YOU RIGHT AT THIS MOMENT!!" I feel like I'm starting to become illuminated to the concept of sex without friendship or familarity or any of that.
We used to have lots of words in our profile about making friends with people and seeing where it goes from there. I still kind of prefer being a second-date kind of couple but now our feeling is that some of the people who we meet to have sex with might become long-term friends after the sexual relationship has already started. Some others might instead be just sex for one night, and that's okay. We hope to make lots of long-term friends with whom we have a lot of things in common and who are freaky like us but we're not so preoccupied with it as a requirement now.