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Originally Posted by 2jersey To illustrate a point: We’re happy when we meet a couple, like them, and have sex with them. If we have multiple encounters with a particular couple, we might develop a mutual fondness and respect. But, to be blunt, if/when the sexual activity has permanently concluded, the relationship is over (thus disproving the notion that we were ever true friends).
Perhaps most people who say they are seeking friendship have views which are similar to ours, but they are less literal in their use of the word ‘friend’? Maybe we are scaring away some high quality people by including the aforementioned friendship reference in our profile? Perhaps we are being hypocritical by including friendship qualities in our screening criteria, while denouncing the idea that we might develop immediate and lasting friendships? Maybe it’s just a slow day and we have nothing particularly important on our minds?  |
No, I don't think that most couples who say they want to be friends mean we want to be "fuck buddies". We really are looking for friends. Maybe not BFF-barbecues-every-weekend, how's-your-mama-n-them kind of friends, but the hey-do-you-guys-want-to-go-listen-to-this-new-band-next-weekend kind of friends. We have very close friends who are pregnant right now (well, she's pregnant) and are not playing right now. They still hang out with their swinger friends in totally vanilla ways--going to the movies, to dinner, hanging out at home. I think more people are looking for friends like that. But, I could be way off-base....
Pepper