Sounds like you two are in for a busy time getting to know one another. I can fully appreciate what it means to not just love someone, but be truly in love. It still doesn't make up for good old-fashioned hard work. It takes time for lives to fully intertwine. You might have started off really well, and that's great, but as they say, Rome wasn't built in a day.
And btw, just because you found each other on a swinger's site doesn't automatically mean you're both swingers (yet) ...does it? Mr. Gung-Ho needs to back up a bit. Dezray, you are right on in your attitude towards swinging. It should be a nice addition to your life, it shouldn't BECOME your life. And I'm less than impressed with his lack of sensitivity during this difficult time for you. If he's still insisting on having his way - even though he knows that you are unable to participate - the boy needs a reality check. And he needs to make a decision: You...or swinging. What's it going to be? Now, he can have both, if he plays his cards right, but right now, his impatience is costing him big time. If he insists on having everything he wants RIGHT NOW! then he's risking the relationship that he supposedly values so much.
I may be jumping the gun, here. It would be interesting to hear from Mr. Dezaray.