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Originally Posted by JustAskJulie You need time to really develop your relationship before you add swinging to it. You didn't take that time. |
we met on a swingers site, i had only met other single men (mainly for sex) however I was looking for a relationship, not one to *fall* into, but to find someone WORTH developing one with. speaking for him, i blew him away, he never expected or wanted anything this serious... but couldnt walk away from it either bc he knows what we have found in each other is rare, and not something to overlook.
before even meeting we were on the same page with SO many things. We connect on SOOO many levels, the following months up until this last one, we continued to develop an intensly deep bond, at 1st the speed in which we fell for each other it freaked us out equaly, but were adults, life is short, and we KNEW and discussed concrete reasons why *we* felt so right.
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Originally Posted by JustAskJulie Were you both swinging before you got together? If not, I have to wonder why you would jump into something like this so quickly after getting together. |
he has had some experience in the past, mainly with an x gf/the love of his life, that did him wrong in the swinging thing, VERY VERY VERY bad ending! and yes i do believe it affects our relationship, i obviously have my issues as well that affect it too, IMHO we all do, unless one is just dilusional.... fact of life
i have only experienced a taste of this lifestyle with him (2 uneven soft swaps-not very good experiences), and do want to experience much more, but at MY pace, with ppl we agree on, and for it not to take over our lives.
b4 we got serious, i was approached by a cpl for a FMF, it intimidated me to go alone, he offered to go w/me for protection, from there the rest should be obvious... as my desire grew to include him in my quest, I suggested we create a cpl profile, and swing together