The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Wanting to move at a slower pace than my spouse

dezaray · 05-31-2006, 10:35 AM

we've been together for 5 months, fell in-love 2 months ago after we started exploring this together, since then, we fight A LOT! little fights that are forgotten about so that it doesnt blow up into something bigger, big fights: broke up for a day, stayed gone all night, different occasions

the good DEFINATELY outwieghs the bad.... but im just not sure alllll the conversation, trolling, chats, emails, meet/greets, and heated discussion over boundaries/who/when we will meet, and my nerves over all the drama is worth it, if its not gonna last.

95% of our fights revolve around swinging issues, because he's more impatient than i am, i want to move at a comfortable pace/he's in a hurry, AND im MUCH more selective than he is, and the MAIN THING IS I WANT MORE BALLANCE! between REAL life, and living out our sexual fantasies, he wants the oposite

sooooo, with this, do you think we should be doing this? ive read a million times, that couples need to be secure in their relationship before swinging... that if u have problems, swinging will only make it worse...

i CAN NOT handle ANY MORE PAIN, DRAMA, BULL SHIT! but....we love each other very deeply...

05-31-2006, 10:35 AM	#1 (permalink)
dezaray Active Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 56 Location: Baltimore Status: SINGLE FEMALE	Wanting to move at a slower pace than my spouse we've been together for 5 months, fell in-love 2 months ago after we started exploring this together, since then, we fight A LOT! little fights that are forgotten about so that it doesnt blow up into something bigger, big fights: broke up for a day, stayed gone all night, different occasions the good DEFINATELY outwieghs the bad.... but im just not sure alllll the conversation, trolling, chats, emails, meet/greets, and heated discussion over boundaries/who/when we will meet, and my nerves over all the drama is worth it, if its not gonna last. 95% of our fights revolve around swinging issues, because he's more impatient than i am, i want to move at a comfortable pace/he's in a hurry, AND im MUCH more selective than he is, and the MAIN THING IS I WANT MORE BALLANCE! between REAL life, and living out our sexual fantasies, he wants the oposite sooooo, with this, do you think we should be doing this? ive read a million times, that couples need to be secure in their relationship before swinging... that if u have problems, swinging will only make it worse... i CAN NOT handle ANY MORE PAIN, DRAMA, BULL SHIT! but....we love each other very deeply...