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Originally Posted by Unregistered I don't know if anyone else has this problem, but i really don't want to swing. My b/f swang with his wife and wants to do it with me, we have swung with a couple of males, but no penetration(tg) the only reason i do it is for him, i tryed to tell him that it wasn't for me but he didn't talk to me for a week. Maybe if he thought that sex with me was special and not just a f***, i sometimes don't know why he is with me..when he could just go out and have anyone he wants...no strings. recently he started talking to a cpl that is into full swap...that i definatly don't want. i think that he just wants permission to cheat. |
The parts in bold are red flags. Notice how much is bolded? Didn't talk to you for a WEEK? For refusing to degrade yourself?? Where is the love in that? I say tell him to put his lip back in before a bird shits on it. Sheesh. Temper tantrums are for two year olds, not adults.
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Originally Posted by Unregistered can someone help me get into the right mind frame for this... |
You're already in the frame of mind you should be in: recognizing that you're not ready for this sort of thing, that you're not interested in it. Do NOT continue to do this for his sake, or you'll only feel like you've cheapened yourself, and you'll just resent him for it.
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Originally Posted by Unregistered if i don't do it he will leave me..he says no...but eventually he will...i just want him to love me.. thanks for any help you can give... |
So let him leave. He will be the one in the wrong, not you. I guess the question is whether or not you're willing to sell yourself short, degrade yourself, or feel that you are less of a person...just to keep someone who doesn't care that you're doing this to yourself...because it's getting him what he wants: pussy.
You want to be a person worth loving? Stick to your principles and do not let him sway you. Stay true to yourself, and if he's worth loving at all, he'll eventually realize that he's being an ass. And he will come back asking for forgiveness and another chance.