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Originally Posted by Swingercast Don't rule all of us down to earth, stable, secure, drama despising soft-swingers out...that would be frustrating!! Allie |
Swingercast and jandg,
In line with the subject of this thread-- what's been your experience with other soft swing couples? I'd like to put aside the question of new couples taking time to get comfortable, if they are not ruling out full swap in the future. I am wondering about NandTfromCA's original question, paraphrasing: Are uncertainty, trepidation and marital difficulties significantly more common with soft swing couples than full swap couples? I'd love to hear more from jandg and Swingercast, as well as others, on this one.
We recently played with a soft swap couple for the first time, and had NO issues. They have been doing this for a number of years. We don't know for sure why they are soft swap (didn't want to pry too much or seem like we were pressuring them). But they said they got married when she was very young and have always been soft swap. I wonder whether she has just never had intercourse with another man and wants to keep it that way, for whatever reason. They seemed entirely secure and both were enthusiastic about being with us.
Never mind that we don't "get" (i.e. understand) soft swap...that's another thread.