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Choosing not play with couples because of their boundries is one thing. To say someone isnt ready or should not be swinging because of those boundries is another. We would most likely not play with a couple who would not do oral (because we like it so much) but that does not mean we think they should not be doing this and we would never tell them that. In other words we would respect their boundries and move on without labeling them.
There is a middle ground and high ground I guess. But all too often I have read in the forums that some people in this high ground look down or somehow think they are more enlightened than those of us with boundries.

One could say that couples with no limits have issues that could mean that maybe there is a problem in their relationship.
One could also say that those with too many boundries have problems in their relationship.

We have learned a great deal here and I want to thank those who take the time to give advice and share their experience although I may not agree with all of it.
BUT...I think that maybe some of of those same people forget what making the jump is like and how they felt when they were rookies. AND.... some of those same people tell people they have problems when there isn't any. They just have their limits. Simple as that.

I hope I don't offend anyone and I know it sounds as if I'm painting with a broad brush here. There are exceptions to everything and I don't mean to imply that all you veterans feel this way. I'm just trying to give a perspective from someone who has limits for our own reasons.

This kind of struck a nerve with me because one of the things holding us back or slowing us down is how we would be looked upon because of our limits. This worry of ours is based on what we have read here.

Just needed to vent.