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Originally Posted by dezaray How come a lot ofexperienced people SEEM to have this opinion that any time someone has limits/boundaries, it's a hang-up or they're being jealous? |
I think most people have some limits/boundries, even experienced swingers. It has been our experience though, that if a couple has excessive amounts of rules and boundries they usually have issues like jealousy or insecurity in their relationship. Either that or they are just really new, we were like most others here when we first started. We had so many rules we couldn't even remember them all. Now we have very few, because it didn't take us long to see that our excessive amount of rules created more problems than they prevented. Additionally, we spent so much time worrying about not breaking our rules that it pretty much got in the way of the fun. That is also why now if we meet a couple that has too many rules, or rules that seem odd to us (like no kissing) we just politely pass.