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Originally Posted by Spoomonkey They list their ages as younger - and the reason is they feel like they are off the radar of a lot of couples who would otherwise be interested. Spoomonkey |
Spoomonkey, you raised a very valid point there & I should clarify my previous post where I said
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I've always given my real age on on-line personals sites.
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Before I met my hubby, when I was looking for a partner on the on-line personals sites (which, BTW, is where I met my hubby :-)) I realized that 1) I
generally (although there are always exceptions :-) like younger men cuz they more often match my "semblant age", and 2) men often limit their search to younger or same-age women, thinking that they'll be sexier, better lovers, etc than older ones (again, a generalization, right?). I figured, rightly, that if I put my real age down, they'd never even see me on their search lists because they'd be searching for younger women.
So here's what I did ... slightly devious, but
ultimately honest ... I posted my age as "xx" (4 years younger than my chronological age) ... and THEN, because I didn't want to be accused of out & out lying, down at the BOTTOM of my profile description (because everyone should read your whole profile before contacting you, right??), I put "xx is my SEMBLANT age. My birth certificate says I was born in May, 1951" (which when they'd calculated it, would have told them how old I really was).
My ruse had the desired effect .... I was included in their search lists, yet I didn't actually lie about my age because I indirectly 'fessed up in the profile itself. I never had anyone tell me they were offended by my deviousness and I had quite a few admit to me that if I hadn't done that, they would have never even seen my profile.
So do I recommend people lie about their age?? Not at all ... but do I recognize that rightly or wrongly, some people (myself included, though I
try not to) are going to prejudge you based on your age?? Most certainly. And I don't think there's anything wrong with a clever twist that shows them that they shouldn't judge a book by its cover (or a person by their age)
MrsOttawaCuple