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sereneiders · 05-22-2006, 07:03 PM

I believe this guy problem had to do with the "surprise factor". I mean, either he knew this may happen and didn't told you before, or he didn't knew but happend. The problem is aroused when this become unconfortable enough for the players as for someone to quit playing, which at last is what happend: you switched back partners.

I've seen couples where the guy make jokes about these issues, whenever he actually had a problem before or not, just to loosen it up and open the door for the other guy to talk about it. IMHO this is a wise approach, since the other guy feels these issues as acceptable, if he had them before, is able to warn beforehand and then to agree in a confortable way to deal with the problem for both parties as to keep the ball rolling. And often this confort level is enough to even avoid the problem at all.

05-22-2006, 07:03 PM	#7 (permalink)
sereneiders Some sort of user Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 1,131 Location: Argentina Status: Couple	Re: ED situation - what's a gal to do? I believe this guy problem had to do with the "surprise factor". I mean, either he knew this may happen and didn't told you before, or he didn't knew but happend. The problem is aroused when this become unconfortable enough for the players as for someone to quit playing, which at last is what happend: you switched back partners. I've seen couples where the guy make jokes about these issues, whenever he actually had a problem before or not, just to loosen it up and open the door for the other guy to talk about it. IMHO this is a wise approach, since the other guy feels these issues as acceptable, if he had them before, is able to warn beforehand and then to agree in a confortable way to deal with the problem for both parties as to keep the ball rolling. And often this confort level is enough to even avoid the problem at all.