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Originally Posted by JnCC Don't beat yourself up too much over this...at the very worst, it's only half your fault. |
Thanks, but I'm not beating myself up
at all and I don't think it's my "fault".
Not that it's his fault, either -- it's just what happened. It's going to happen sometimes, especially in our age group - over 40. My question is really about being the woman in my position - what is expected of me at that point, what should I do to handle this (if anything), when the man is getting frantic about trying to deal with his erection, trying to make it happen.
My husband told me later that I'm hard to get into unless the man is fully erect, where the other man's wife is easy to get into only semi-hard. Maybe this is part of the reason why he could regain an erection when he went back to his wife. Also, the factor of not using a condom with her, plus the comfort/familiarity factor.
I've been thinking about it and so far, it seems the best way to handle it is to do what we did - when my husband came back to me and left the couple to manage this together. My hubby and I didn't plan this out, it just worked that way (thanks to him) - but I'm thinking this may be the way to consciously handle it should it happen again. Have others here experienced it this way, and does this work best? Thanks!