We are a soft swing couple, happily married for 20 years. In addition to no intercourse, we also refrain from kissing others on the mouth.
We find that oral, caressing, touching, etc, are "playing", while kissing and intercourse, at least for us, define "passion" which we reserve for ourselves.
We've been lucky to meet some others in our area (Las Vegas) that have the same interests. We've also met single men and couples that are visiting that have no problem "playing" with us.
So far it's worked out great.
