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2jersey · 05-21-2006, 02:19 PM

We suspect there may be a natural progression for many new swingers - beginning experiences are soft in nature, and full swap occurrs down the road a bit. We are currently a soft swap couple, but we expect to transition to full swap once we have a solid base of good experiences (and buy some condoms).

If our theory is correct, it stands to reason that most soft swap couples are also relative newcomers to swinging. Assuming newbies are more prone to insecurity and trepidation - the same would apply to soft swingers.

We can also imagine soft swap couples who are hesitant to full swap because of STDs, and we, personally, wouldn't expect these particular couples to exhibit a greater than average tendency towards drama. Why would they?

We can't speak from personal experience, but we assume that certain full swap couples who engage in separate room play may have doubts about the "insecurity" and "trepidations" of full swap couples who insist on same room play. We, ourselves, have wondered about full swap couples who don't engage in kissing - is this a sign of insecurity?

Any boundary which is placed on safe and mutually satisfying sexual activity might be a symptom of some level of trepidation or insecurity?

05-21-2006, 02:19 PM	#3 (permalink)
2jersey Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2006 Posts: 489 Location: ~~~ Status: Couple	Re: Soft swing (not a thread about E.D.) We suspect there may be a natural progression for many new swingers - beginning experiences are soft in nature, and full swap occurrs down the road a bit. We are currently a soft swap couple, but we expect to transition to full swap once we have a solid base of good experiences (and buy some condoms). If our theory is correct, it stands to reason that most soft swap couples are also relative newcomers to swinging. Assuming newbies are more prone to insecurity and trepidation - the same would apply to soft swingers. We can also imagine soft swap couples who are hesitant to full swap because of STDs, and we, personally, wouldn't expect these particular couples to exhibit a greater than average tendency towards drama. Why would they? We can't speak from personal experience, but we assume that certain full swap couples who engage in separate room play may have doubts about the "insecurity" and "trepidations" of full swap couples who insist on same room play. We, ourselves, have wondered about full swap couples who don't engage in kissing - is this a sign of insecurity? Any boundary which is placed on safe and mutually satisfying sexual activity might be a symptom of some level of trepidation or insecurity?