[NandTfromCA]

First of all, this is not a soft swing bashing thread, nor is it a thread whining about how tough it can be to be a soft swinger.

My goal is to find out how our experiences are in line with those of others.

Our soft swing definition- Any combination of sexual activities (kissing, oral, fingers, hands, etc) excluding the man penetrating the woman with his penis.

We have played with a few soft swing couples and found out during or after that every one of them has had insecurities, marriage problems, or significant trepidation. The friends we have spoken to about this have said that their experience with soft swing couples has been similar.

I know there are soft swing couples that don’t have any of that baggage and that we would love to play and be friends with, but what I’m wondering is-

QUESTION: Is this uncertainty significantly more common with soft swing couples than full swap couples?

If so, I would imagine it could be frustrating to be a down to earth, stable, secure soft swing couple trying to find others that are the same.

All that said, maybe I am way off base. What are your thoughts?

Mr.