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TL31 · 05-20-2006, 12:24 AM

Everyone has given great advice here. I can only say the same thing you really need to talk to each other not at or around each other. My husband and I got married in our early 20's and had all 3 of our kids within the first 4 years. I stayed at home while he worked long hours. It cause alot of issues with each other because instead of talking to each other we talked around or at. We both started spending more time online then with each other and it hurt our marriage. I know from my point I thought key word there is thought. I thought I was getting more attention from the people I talked to online then from my own husband. We both look back at it now and shake our heads.
We know now if we had just took the time to sit down and talk to each other we would have save alot of heart ache in the long run. Its been 9 1/2 years together now and we are still learning everyday new things to keep our marriage on the right road. But if you can sit down and talk be as open as you can with each other hold nothing back. You 2 might find out there is a problem that she is trying to fix by being online with these other guys. And hopefully you can fix it and move on to a better place in your marriage.
I hope that helps you I know a bit of what you are going through and it breaks my heart to see others hurting in that way.

05-20-2006, 12:24 AM	#59 (permalink)
TL31 Active Member Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 12 Location: Mississippi Status: couple	Re: Major Problem…No One To Talk Too! Everyone has given great advice here. I can only say the same thing you really need to talk to each other not at or around each other. My husband and I got married in our early 20's and had all 3 of our kids within the first 4 years. I stayed at home while he worked long hours. It cause alot of issues with each other because instead of talking to each other we talked around or at. We both started spending more time online then with each other and it hurt our marriage. I know from my point I thought key word there is thought. I thought I was getting more attention from the people I talked to online then from my own husband. We both look back at it now and shake our heads. We know now if we had just took the time to sit down and talk to each other we would have save alot of heart ache in the long run. Its been 9 1/2 years together now and we are still learning everyday new things to keep our marriage on the right road. But if you can sit down and talk be as open as you can with each other hold nothing back. You 2 might find out there is a problem that she is trying to fix by being online with these other guys. And hopefully you can fix it and move on to a better place in your marriage. I hope that helps you I know a bit of what you are going through and it breaks my heart to see others hurting in that way.