Thanks for response. We've been reading for some time now. We do get good advise and we could give advice as well. But, is it unusual for one to need to develop a sort of friendship and one to not want that at all. Sex is fun for both, but, the pleasure comes from 2 different places. Internal for me and visual for him. Blindfold most men and a warm mouth will suffice, his imagination takes over from there. Blind fold me, and I feel nothing. No fun, no connection, just motions. I don't think that I will acheive an orgasm with anyone but my husband unless I know them very very well. I took time to reach that point with him. My whole self needs safety to become that vunerable. He would like for me to cum, it turns him on to think once in the act I cannot help it when said man brings me to orgasm dispite what I thnk. He also, really doenst want to know the other person. That kind of blows it for him. There is one person that he grew up with that would be okay. but, when we approched him with the idea, his response was "some fantisies should remain fantisties". So, are these basic difference between us common? or an eternal struggle.
us2 are we doomed to only talk about it. Or, perhaps, start a new form of swinging...virtual swinging.
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