[EvilMJ]

Talk about total non communication!! Guess what you aren't swinging! Your wife is going out and having a great time without you, and then telling you about it after the fact as if that is her little get out of jail free card.

I say this time and time again, swinging is about BOTH Of you having fun, if you are not having fun, then why are you doing it!!!!

To me swinging is something that we do together, there are no long conversations with someone else in the wee hours of the morning, there are no 'dates', there are no suprise blow jobs.

You need to sit your wife down and talk to her. Tell her what you want and don't want. If you don't want her to go it alone, then tell her so, set out the ground rules. If she cannot accept you playing as a couple, then you shouldn't play at all..remember your marriage should always come first.