 Re: Major Problem…No One To Talk Too!
In our opinion, and not even having anything to do with our desire to swing, there are huge differences between swinging, an 'open' relationship, and cheating. I wouldn't even consider what she is doing, 'with' permission, swinging. With permission, I would call it an 'open' relationship. However, I wouldn't call it that either, as you tried many times more than should have been needed to tell her you are not comfortable with it, you don't like it, and no you don't want her to do it. She basically badgered you into saying 'fine whatever'.... and did it... yet still knowing you didn't want it to happen but not caring. Simply put, she's cheating on you. Being coerced into submission is not submitting. If you finally gave up the argument for the sake of not arguing, which it should be obvious to ANYONE that's what happened, it is not permission. It's "I don't want to fight about it anymore." As sad as divorce is, I agree with NewAndScared. I might not file for divorce right this second, but I would put it to her as being 2 choices. Stop, or get out, so I can begin to rebuild my life, my heart, and my happiness.
IMHO
Mr. C |