[good times]

If we meet somebody at the clubs it usually doesn't take long at all. Then again, their have been times when we met more prospective playmates in one night than we could play with on that night. Sometimes the time just isn't right for months before we actaully make it to the play room. The important thing though, is that someone has to ask "do you want to play with us" or something similar. We have found that if it goes on for any length of time without anyone popping the question, it probably isn't ever going to happen. We have met many people in swinging that we became friends with but have never played with and don't intend to. This is all fine, friends are good to, but if you want to play with them someone needs to ask. That said, I have to admit, we are notoriously bad at this asking bit. Most of the time, people have to ask us, as we suck at making the first move.

When meeting people online, we always meet with no expectations. The reason for this is that we know that the only way we will know if we are all compatable is to meet in person. We get emails from people all the time saying lets get together for sex this weekend. Our response is always "We would be more than happy to meet you this weekend to see if we all get along and are compatable, but we won't agree to have sex until after we have met". We usually never hear from these people again, which is fine with us. We are more than willing to have sex on the first date if we all get along, and usually do, but we aren't willing to commit to sex having never met in person.