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sereneiders · 05-11-2006, 08:39 PM

IMHO you're being more Popists than the same Pope here.

I believe it is a mistake to suppose every people feels the same way about sexual response and the ways they get satisfied, and more important, to forget the well know differences between males and females.

I am much like your hubby, I enjoy long plays, enjoy very much providing pleasure, but I am a one shoot guy (Exceptionally it happend I had a second round), but for me this is what is NORMAL and satisfying, and I don't know of the theoretical "more satisfaction" I am supposedly missing, because I never had the "multiple orgasm" experience. I only heard of such a thing from women.

This is like missing to eat candies. For this to happen, you have to be able to taste a candy as to be able to like candies in the first place, and just then we may begin talking about missing them. For someone who ever had a candy, the whole "missing candy" stuff is meaningless.

The same applies to the "orgasm" concept, I know how it feels what I call an orgasm, but I cannot tell nor suppose you feel the same I do when you feel what you call an orgasm. I gess it is the same, or something pretty close, but in fact no one can tell for sure (as no one can tell if we see colors the same way, we believe we do because we both agree something is red and something else is blue, but then the colors stuff is just about a naming convention and not about subjective perception).

Perhaps your hubby may ask himself the same question I do to myself about this subject. Since none of your multiple orgasms render you useless for any further sexual activity, what prevents me from supposing your orgasms are less intense than the ones I have (or your hubby have)? If this were true, your hubby could feel sorry for you, because you wouldn't be feeling the same great thing he does.

But I bet you'd be laughing at such a supposition, because you already know you have blowing mind orgasms, that you don't require them to be even more blowing than what they already are (unless wanting to end up like Igor in Woody Allen's "All you want to know about sex..." movie), so my toughts are meaningless for you. I am talking about my very personal candies, ones you wont be ever able to taste, nor to miss.

And the opposite is true as well. You're talking about your personal candies, ones that your hubby wont be ever able to taste, and even less to miss.

But what I feel is something to worry about is the pressure you two are putting on this issue, a pressure that may end up convincing some of you or both that you're not the one able to please him, or that there should be something wrong with him, and such a conviction actually may end up spoiling your sex life. So I'd suggest you to let it go.

05-11-2006, 08:39 PM	#4 (permalink)
sereneiders Some sort of user Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 1,131 Location: Argentina Status: Couple	Re: Erection Questions IMHO you're being more Popists than the same Pope here. I believe it is a mistake to suppose every people feels the same way about sexual response and the ways they get satisfied, and more important, to forget the well know differences between males and females. I am much like your hubby, I enjoy long plays, enjoy very much providing pleasure, but I am a one shoot guy (Exceptionally it happend I had a second round), but for me this is what is NORMAL and satisfying, and I don't know of the theoretical "more satisfaction" I am supposedly missing, because I never had the "multiple orgasm" experience. I only heard of such a thing from women. This is like missing to eat candies. For this to happen, you have to be able to taste a candy as to be able to like candies in the first place, and just then we may begin talking about missing them. For someone who ever had a candy, the whole "missing candy" stuff is meaningless. The same applies to the "orgasm" concept, I know how it feels what I call an orgasm, but I cannot tell nor suppose you feel the same I do when you feel what you call an orgasm. I gess it is the same, or something pretty close, but in fact no one can tell for sure (as no one can tell if we see colors the same way, we believe we do because we both agree something is red and something else is blue, but then the colors stuff is just about a naming convention and not about subjective perception). Perhaps your hubby may ask himself the same question I do to myself about this subject. Since none of your multiple orgasms render you useless for any further sexual activity, what prevents me from supposing your orgasms are less intense than the ones I have (or your hubby have)? If this were true, your hubby could feel sorry for you, because you wouldn't be feeling the same great thing he does. But I bet you'd be laughing at such a supposition, because you already know you have blowing mind orgasms, that you don't require them to be even more blowing than what they already are (unless wanting to end up like Igor in Woody Allen's "All you want to know about sex..." movie), so my toughts are meaningless for you. I am talking about my very personal candies, ones you wont be ever able to taste, nor to miss. And the opposite is true as well. You're talking about your personal candies, ones that your hubby wont be ever able to taste, and even less to miss. But what I feel is something to worry about is the pressure you two are putting on this issue, a pressure that may end up convincing some of you or both that you're not the one able to please him, or that there should be something wrong with him, and such a conviction actually may end up spoiling your sex life. So I'd suggest you to let it go.