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Originally Posted by DBL D I think he knows why it hurts, what he is going to need to do is find out a way to not have it hurt.
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I'm sure he does deep down. I just mean that sometimes the obvious answer isn't the real root cause. Why was he hurt? Because she was paying more attention to the other guy than to him, or because he was afraid it meant she was getting emotionally involved. But here I go with the onion peeling thing again.
He'll need to ask "Why?" a few more times before he gets to the bottom of the problem. Why does it upset him that his wife is giving more attention to the other guy? I mean, was she
actually ignoring him, or was he just seeing that way? Anyway, my point is you have to ask questions like a busy-body 4-year-old would do. You might lose your mind asking so many questions, but getting those answers - even the ones we don't really want to hear - is a blessed relief. No more wondering. No more emotional anvil hanging over our heads.