[slowluvr65]

This is just my quick impression, but normally when I even get to the point of chatting with somebody one on one, the bullshit and the secrets go out the window. There is a key difference between things that are posted on the internet that can be seen by ANYBODY or a private communication between interested partners. Granted, I am a single male and I actively seek a real meeting. I freely disclose how to reach me and in private, if there is anything happening between us, we exchange pictures and such. If it gets more serious, we talk about how to meet. Some people are cautious and we meet publicly, others have gotten past the pretence or have learned through our communication that I am trustworthy. Phone numbers are exchanged, voice communication takes place. The key thing I am pointing to is, honest communication is taking happening. If you get incomplete information, hidden photos, no phone number etc., that is a key sign that some B.S. is happening. It is essential to recognize that with anybody you are going to be intimate with. There's a funny thing about honesty, its not selective. If somebody lies about their social situation, they also could be lying about their health situation.

I'll go further, and I'm sorry that I point this at females, but this does seem to be a female trait in the sexual dynamic. Women like to tease. They seem to feel that because teasing in person is so much fun, that it is also fun in this on line social dance we do to try to arrange a meeting. Some get sufficient gratification from men telling them how hot they are, some think that its fun to advertise but they don't follow through. And for us eager men its a cruel trait when we think we have an interested, hot woman but she doesn't show up. It is the hardest thing to try to figure out who is real and who is teasing.

Men are much more direct--you know what they want. If the offer is to join in fucking their wife or partner, we have a match. Not that men are free from fault. There are a lot of cheaters and fakers. I hear a lot of complaints (OK, some come in the form of accusations) about married men sneaking into these situations without their wives knowing about it. Other guys apparently send out photos of men they are no longer, or never were. And what happens when something different shows up? What do they think will happen?

Even though I have gotten no actual results from here, the reason I keep coming back to this site is the people here seem honest, genuine and real. And in the on line world, that is rather unique.