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Originally Posted by sereneiders Cara,
At first glance I understand your feelings and toughts. My two cents and a question here.
Couldn't he feeling the need to turn the relationsip into a monogamy, even unconciously, in such a way his expression about sins would be a way to limit himself as to make you act in accordance and limit yourself too? Or the opposite, by feeling too much commitment already for his taste, and being unable to feel himself guilty from push you away, to find (unconsciously again) something able to freak you enough as to make you into the one pushing him away and thake the blame for doing it?
Now the question. You said he was raised Muslim. As far as I know, Muslims accept polyamorial relationships between one man and as many women as he can provide a welfare. Even when he's jumping from bed to bed and there's nothing you said clarifying how much he fits to the "provider" role towards the women he have sex with, including yourself, it seems to me that what he's doing is closer to this dogma than what you do (women should have just one husband), and at least for him you'd be "more sinner" than him. I know everyone have his/her own very perception and relation with God (whoever the God is), but this seems somehow odd to me. How does he correlate his sinfull feelings with being Muslim, or at least, with these Muslim dogmas? |
Hi! You raised excellent points. I haven't been visiting this site, or any site, for a while because I've been feeling a bit blue. I am sorry that I didn't update you previously.
Actually, you read this relationship quite well.
He has been demanding monogamy from me. Of course, he isn't willing to do the same. It looks like this relationship which is perfect in so many ways will not last.
