[shigrl269]

Hi Thor,
I'm a newbie here too, first post. I read your situation and find myself in a similar one, sort of. My hubby very much wants to swing; I have had girl/girl in the past (not while we were together). I am turned on by other women and hubby thinks this is great. He used to want to watch me and another woman and that was that, although that hasn't happened.
He now talks about me with other men and swinging. First as dirty talk, now he is really wanting it.
Problem: I feel like he wants this experience with other couples, women and himself in particular b/c he is lacking something in our sex life. Also I fear he will become attracted to the other person and the thought of him doing with someone else what he does with me, hurts.
I am obviously NOT ready for swinging, open for exciting him with some girl/girl, but have no desire to see him do anything with another woman. I know it is selfish and I'm not pressed to run out and do it, but he talks about swinging A LOT.
Don't know if this helps you in anyway, but it may.

Also if you don't mind my asking, you or anyone else for that matter, having never done it, does it affect the relationship? Cause jealousy? I'm sure it is individual for everyone, but some feedback on how you can share and not want to wander would be great, apart from the relationship being great to start.
I think I would enjoy the experience if I could overcome the scariness of the newness of it, and my own insecurity. Is this at all common?
I think I am paranoid!!! Sorry for the long post, have been holding this inside, haven't talked to anyone, feels good to throw it out there. Thanks all