[EvilMJ]

We do not have an open relationship but we do play separately from time to time.
This is not something that I would reccomend for every couple, you really have to have your stuff together to do it properly.

When we do play separately it is for a variety of reasons:

We can't find a couple we click with

There is a couple that only I play with because they are only interested in a threesome with a bi female. Hubby knows them quite well, we consider them friends and we trust them completely.

I have a friend who I play with from time to time but we are both bi females and close friends. Sometimes I play alone with her hubby and she can play with mine.

A times it is distracting trying to play all together in the same room

At a party we sometimes split up and do our thing.

The list can go on and on. There is no one way to swing. You do what works for you.

However most of the time we play together. We just approach every situation differently, but it only occurs after we have thoroughly discussed and we both agree on what is going to happen, and what isn't.

Strangely in the group of swingers that we hang out with there is a large percentage of us that play separately, I don't think that is the norm for the most part but we just kinda all know each other and respect each other.