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Originally Posted by deejayc No, she has actually mentioned it not as a fantasy, but as a wish. The first time it ever came about swinging (I don't remember on what occasion) she said that it would be interesting to try (just bringing up the subject), but it was after a TV show with and about swingers when she has shown a true interest in this. Her words were "I would like us to go to one of these clubs, what do you say?"... and I hesitated... and she thought that I wasn't 100% OK with it and just dropped the subject. |
Wait a moment. She said she'd like to go there after watching a TV show?
There are lots of peoples who goes just once to a clube because they're curious and want to watch closer "this crazy people". Regluars at the club calls them "the zoo visitors".
Wanting to go to a club doesn't necesarily means wanting to actually swing. She may want to go to the zoo (and that could give her a better idea of all of this that may... or may not help you), and you may be telling her, "ok, i love the idea, let's go to the zoo and jum inside the lions pit". Then she would say "hey, no way! I wonuldn't step 100 yards close to a zoo if you're around".
And if she wants to go to the zoo, take Intuition advice, go step by step, invite her to the zoo but JUST TO WATCH, forget about swinging.
Luckily enough, this could arouse her and bring fantasies that, later on, may evolve into swinging.. or it may not.
In any case, you have a communication problem here. If you two cannot communicate seamesly, you won't be able to swing. Swinging is more about communication than about sex. Is that simple.