The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Wife doesn't understand my boundary concerns

sereneiders · 04-26-2006, 06:29 PM

I'd agree with NandTfromCA here, but... I also agree with JnCC, and there isn't a contradiction here.

From your words, she was being disrespectfull... but form your oen words, it seems to me you were the one who disrespected yourself in the first time.

You're there, the lady who introduced this guy as her husband leaves the room and you let things happend even against your expetactions of a "fair play"... why don't you called it off right now, and told your wife to look for a COUPLE up to play togheter with you two? Taking this situation isn't much different than "taking one for the team", even when this was against your expectations.

Then, you're still there (because of taking care of her), and a bunch of his friends start commenting and laughing at you and you still won't do anything about it? Like asking the guys to leave and close the door, stand up, get next to them and ask them to tell you the joke they're laughing at, stop the action and tell the guy to get his ass out of there with his friends (and promise your wife a dildo as a gift if she doesn't understand what's going on), or... or... or... I am figuring out the same scenario with me, or with most of the swinger husbands I know of, and I am sure nor me nor any one of them would be invited again to these meetings because that would've ended up in a fight. A guy laughing at you because his friend is screwing your wife? it doesn't matter how open minded you are, nor if you're swinger... you just remained there, sitting, watching your wife and that well endowed guy have fun togheter, and their friends laughing at you?

The guy later on handle her a phone number and, again, you remain two steps behind. Why don't you pick the piece of paper from your wife's hands and put it in this guy pocket, looking at him straight into his eyes and waiting him to dare to make a comment?

So far, you had been the only one disrespecting yourself, you didn't need any help from your wife nor anyone else around, you managed to do it flawlesly, but once in the car your sart a cold hearted talking about what happend with your wife. I wouldn't blame on her at that point if she were believing you enjoyed being disrespected, and decided to cock for you your preferred cake for you to enjoy it as much as she does.

And you're still thinking of attending again that meeting?

Come on, I am starting to believe you're too yellow, or at least agree with slorlner post. Your original post have many common features with the typical cuckold story you may read in asstr.org, as to give it credit, or at least, if true, that you may be enjoying all the attention you got here.

I don't want to be harsh, but seriously, I believe at some point you enjoyed the events so far, even when you may hate to admit it. Otherwise I don't understand your lack of any reaction, over and over and over. You either admit yourself as a cuckold, or you two stop swinging right now and start talking very seriously, because you'd have way more problems inside your marriage than your wife well endowed lover.

04-26-2006, 06:29 PM	#25 (permalink)
sereneiders Some sort of user Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 1,121 Location: Argentina Status: Couple	Re: wife does not understand I'd agree with NandTfromCA here, but... I also agree with JnCC, and there isn't a contradiction here. From your words, she was being disrespectfull... but form your oen words, it seems to me you were the one who disrespected yourself in the first time. You're there, the lady who introduced this guy as her husband leaves the room and you let things happend even against your expetactions of a "fair play"... why don't you called it off right now, and told your wife to look for a COUPLE up to play togheter with you two? Taking this situation isn't much different than "taking one for the team", even when this was against your expectations. Then, you're still there (because of taking care of her), and a bunch of his friends start commenting and laughing at you and you still won't do anything about it? Like asking the guys to leave and close the door, stand up, get next to them and ask them to tell you the joke they're laughing at, stop the action and tell the guy to get his ass out of there with his friends (and promise your wife a dildo as a gift if she doesn't understand what's going on), or... or... or... I am figuring out the same scenario with me, or with most of the swinger husbands I know of, and I am sure nor me nor any one of them would be invited again to these meetings because that would've ended up in a fight. A guy laughing at you because his friend is screwing your wife? it doesn't matter how open minded you are, nor if you're swinger... you just remained there, sitting, watching your wife and that well endowed guy have fun togheter, and their friends laughing at you? The guy later on handle her a phone number and, again, you remain two steps behind. Why don't you pick the piece of paper from your wife's hands and put it in this guy pocket, looking at him straight into his eyes and waiting him to dare to make a comment? So far, you had been the only one disrespecting yourself, you didn't need any help from your wife nor anyone else around, you managed to do it flawlesly, but once in the car your sart a cold hearted talking about what happend with your wife. I wouldn't blame on her at that point if she were believing you enjoyed being disrespected, and decided to cock for you your preferred cake for you to enjoy it as much as she does. And you're still thinking of attending again that meeting? Come on, I am starting to believe you're too yellow, or at least agree with slorlner post. Your original post have many common features with the typical cuckold story you may read in asstr.org, as to give it credit, or at least, if true, that you may be enjoying all the attention you got here. I don't want to be harsh, but seriously, I believe at some point you enjoyed the events so far, even when you may hate to admit it. Otherwise I don't understand your lack of any reaction, over and over and over. You either admit yourself as a cuckold, or you two stop swinging right now and start talking very seriously, because you'd have way more problems inside your marriage than your wife well endowed lover.