The Swingers Board - View Single Post - She brought up it and now she won't even talk about it

sereneiders · 04-26-2006, 05:23 PM

SOmething that isn't clear for me is if she talked about swinging as a fantasy, because that may have beem the case.

Fantasy and reality have very few things in common. In a fantasy she'd be with guys who doesn't acre about extra pounds, she may even don't have these extra pounds at all, she may construct a safe scenario where everithing is possible without any risk... and also she may be aware that any of this have to happen for real.

I'd suggest you first to drop it. Just start exploring fantasies, yours and hers, that may involve other people, of course, and this shouldn't mean you wan't it to happend, because if she feels this way, she wouldn't talk about her fantasies in the first place.

Show her you can deal with her fantasies, that you enjoy them, show her your own fantasies. You don't need other people for this, perhaps a dildo but that'd be all you need. Once she start feeling confortable with sharing fantasies and discussing them, then you may bring the subject again.

She have her own peace, and the only way to do this is being respectull of everyone's peace, by going at the peace of the slowest one involved, which in this case seems to be your wife.

And, once bringing the subject again, invite her to the forum.

But I endore what have been said: you'd have to be up to get answers you dislike, and in this case, well... drop it.

04-26-2006, 05:23 PM	#5 (permalink)
sereneiders Some sort of user Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 1,131 Location: Argentina Status: Couple	Re: First she wanted... now I want it SOmething that isn't clear for me is if she talked about swinging as a fantasy, because that may have beem the case. Fantasy and reality have very few things in common. In a fantasy she'd be with guys who doesn't acre about extra pounds, she may even don't have these extra pounds at all, she may construct a safe scenario where everithing is possible without any risk... and also she may be aware that any of this have to happen for real. I'd suggest you first to drop it. Just start exploring fantasies, yours and hers, that may involve other people, of course, and this shouldn't mean you wan't it to happend, because if she feels this way, she wouldn't talk about her fantasies in the first place. Show her you can deal with her fantasies, that you enjoy them, show her your own fantasies. You don't need other people for this, perhaps a dildo but that'd be all you need. Once she start feeling confortable with sharing fantasies and discussing them, then you may bring the subject again. She have her own peace, and the only way to do this is being respectull of everyone's peace, by going at the peace of the slowest one involved, which in this case seems to be your wife. And, once bringing the subject again, invite her to the forum. But I endore what have been said: you'd have to be up to get answers you dislike, and in this case, well... drop it.