[NandTfromCA]

There has been some really good advice given already but I have to disagree with thinking that any kind of deceit is a misdemeanor.

Failing to make sure you are not feeling left out while she rides Trigger into a lather is a misunderstanding but something that can be beneficial in the long run if you both learn from it. Accepting the guys number because, in the moment, she didn’t think of other options doesn’t seem like a big deal either (as long is you didn't already have a rule about it)...just set the rule for that situation for future reference.

The huge issue I would have is with the dishonesty; telling you she didn’t have a good time and then telling someone else that she did, talking to this guy and not telling you about it. That’s cool that you can trust her, but based on what you wrote, I would not. That’s just me though.

The second biggest problem is her disrespect for your feelings. It makes my stomach upset to think about having to deal with that guy, or his buddies, any more…I can imagine how it makes you feel. It doesn’t matter if you don’t want to be around someone because they have long arms (green eyes, black hair, a deep voice, a suave demeanor, etc)…if you aren’t comfortable with it, she should respect it…end of story. Yeah, you guys can talk about it and she deserves an explanation but in the end you both have to feel happy about the situation in order to move forward.

If she can be totally honest with you about everything and she has no problem respecting the fact that you don’t want to be around this dude anymore, then you are on the right track.

If she makes you feel even the slightest bit badly for not wanting to be around these guys anymore or you get any whiff of deceit, you have bigger things to worry about than Mr. Dudes dick, and should probably step away from swinging and reevaluate the health of your relationship.

Just one guy’s opinion.

Mr.