The Swingers Board - View Single Post - She brought up it and now she won't even talk about it

deejayc · 04-26-2006, 02:25 PM

Hello.. I'm a total newbie to ths kind of things.
My wife and I have been married for over 6 years. I was also her first and only sex partner. Few months ago she has mentioned that she would like to try the swinging scene. At that time I balked at the idea, for no real reason, although deep inside I wanted this... maybe I didn't want her to see me wanting more than just her... don't ask me now, it was a matter of few seconds after which everything was over. Anyway, she took this as if I had something against it and never talked about it again.
I gave it a second thought and I brought the subject up again. However, this time she was the one rejecting it, saying that she couldn't have sex with someone she doesn't really know well and/or like (remember she has only had sex with me), that she wouldn't be comfortable showing her extra lbs to someone else, etc, etc, but I am sure it has something to do with the fact that I didn't agree the first time and now she thinks that I brought the subject up because I want to have an affair with someone else.
Now honestly, I do want to try the swinging scene... but I really don't know how to proceed... so it becomes her idea again. Each subsequent time I even tried to bring it up I hit a wall... but once she admitted that she would like (at a certain point, not now) to try with someone else. Since she was the first to bring it up I am sure that she really thought about it and she wants it... but now won't admit.
Any suggestions?

04-26-2006, 02:25 PM	#1 (permalink)
deejayc Registered Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 5 Location: CT, USA	She brought up it and now she won't even talk about it Hello.. I'm a total newbie to ths kind of things. My wife and I have been married for over 6 years. I was also her first and only sex partner. Few months ago she has mentioned that she would like to try the swinging scene. At that time I balked at the idea, for no real reason, although deep inside I wanted this... maybe I didn't want her to see me wanting more than just her... don't ask me now, it was a matter of few seconds after which everything was over. Anyway, she took this as if I had something against it and never talked about it again. I gave it a second thought and I brought the subject up again. However, this time she was the one rejecting it, saying that she couldn't have sex with someone she doesn't really know well and/or like (remember she has only had sex with me), that she wouldn't be comfortable showing her extra lbs to someone else, etc, etc, but I am sure it has something to do with the fact that I didn't agree the first time and now she thinks that I brought the subject up because I want to have an affair with someone else. Now honestly, I do want to try the swinging scene... but I really don't know how to proceed... so it becomes her idea again. Each subsequent time I even tried to bring it up I hit a wall... but once she admitted that she would like (at a certain point, not now) to try with someone else. Since she was the first to bring it up I am sure that she really thought about it and she wants it... but now won't admit. Any suggestions?