[curiousagain]

In the OP, it stated they guy wasn't single.

Your wife might not have noticed what you were going through while she was in the act with the guy but when you said finish up, that should have been it immediately.

It's true there are two sides to every story but I think all of the troubling things have already been pointed out. There are some major lack of caring and respect issues here that are going to have to be worked out if this couple continues as a couple irregardless of their swinging status. As I have often preached, the minute one of a couple loses respect and or caring for the other's feelings and well being, you can see the end fast approaching.