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Edison Carter · 04-26-2006, 12:09 PM

Susan here---As always,if something doesn't make sense, you're missing a key piece of information. I think the problem is both of you: blending sex drive, lust and emotional inexperience and making a mess.

Here's what happened. You guys go to this party and she gets into it--really into it. She's getting fucked by this guy in a big way, drawing an audience to the point they're looking at you and in no uncertain terms, smiling like adolescents and communicating on some level,"Man is your wife getting fucked big time !" And your standing there and some kidding is going on, and getting really pissed off at the suggestions and perhaps bothered by the fac that you're not getting your fair share.

She, unaccustomed to being direct with people, when given his number, simply accepts it. After all, what does she do, refuse a piece of paper from a guy who was drilling her into next week a few hours earlier ? Then, things start becoming inappropriate with her taking his calls, etc. In other words, you're both at fault, though these are misedemeanors, not felonies.

So, you two need to simply put this behind you and move forward. Try a different group, a different party and definitely don't bother with this guy again. He should never have approached your wife with a phone number, but there's plenty of 'stupid' to go around on this one. But it's not from intent, it's from inexperience.

Let bygones be bygones, learn from your errors and move forward with new experiences with a new group.

04-26-2006, 12:09 PM	#19 (permalink)
Edison Carter Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 412 Location: Bloomington, Il Status: Couple SLS Name:EdisonCarter Blog Entries: 1	Re: wife does not understand Susan here---As always,if something doesn't make sense, you're missing a key piece of information. I think the problem is both of you: blending sex drive, lust and emotional inexperience and making a mess. Here's what happened. You guys go to this party and she gets into it--really into it. She's getting fucked by this guy in a big way, drawing an audience to the point they're looking at you and in no uncertain terms, smiling like adolescents and communicating on some level,"Man is your wife getting fucked big time !" And your standing there and some kidding is going on, and getting really pissed off at the suggestions and perhaps bothered by the fac that you're not getting your fair share. She, unaccustomed to being direct with people, when given his number, simply accepts it. After all, what does she do, refuse a piece of paper from a guy who was drilling her into next week a few hours earlier ? Then, things start becoming inappropriate with her taking his calls, etc. In other words, you're both at fault, though these are misedemeanors, not felonies. So, you two need to simply put this behind you and move forward. Try a different group, a different party and definitely don't bother with this guy again. He should never have approached your wife with a phone number, but there's plenty of 'stupid' to go around on this one. But it's not from intent, it's from inexperience. Let bygones be bygones, learn from your errors and move forward with new experiences with a new group.