[TeamSoBe]

Originally posted by uberkraker
If you want to catch a fish, you have to go to where the fish are. You have a high probability of meeting a swinging single girl if you hang out with other people who think and act the same as you do.

Well now see that's an attitude that I have a lot of respect for. That's how I always looked at things whenever I was single and my efforts were always rewarded in the end with kinky girls. If you can convince swinging couples that you're for real and have what it takes then you're going to end up getting introduced to some of your own kinky girls. You're putting in the sort of ground work that entitles you to an invitation to the party. You're exactly the sort of guy who we look for but can never seem to find. An attitude like that is far more valuable to a swinging couple than good looks or a giant schlong.

...when we start over-analyzing and score keeping about who "brought more to the table" than whom ... it injects a certain pettiness that detracts from everyone's enjoyment.

Well no, it detracts from the enjoyment of the guys who show up without bringing anything to the table. Yes, though, I understand your point. Your opinion might shift some day when you're fighting off the hoardes of single guys who aren't interested in finding dates of their own but who still want to fuck your wife.

Personally, I've never witnessed any of the boorish behavior or cheating husband trickery that's discussed here, because I don't surround myself with those types of people - they wouldn't even get past the door.

You don't encounter that sort of behavior because you don't have a wife that they all want to fuck. Post photos of yourself and your hot girlfriend or wife on a swingers' personals site and you will immediately understand why people get so irritated. There is a reason why so many swingers' profiles say "NO SINGLE MALES!!!" in huge letters. Guys write anyway, they just don't care. They send photos of their dicks, they sign up as a couple on web sites with a "block single males" feature, the variants on poor behavior are just endless.

It takes a lot of energy to resent someone. It takes even more to resent an entire group of people. Remember that.

Wise words to live by. I admire your attitude. I also feel sorry both for you and for couples like us who look for guys like you, because the signal to noise ratio is just so low. There are so many guys running around misbehaving that you're missing out on all kinds of great opportunities because you get associated with them.

For the record though, I don't resent single swinger guys. On the contrary, I seek them out intentionally. I spend more effort looking for available single guys for threesomes for us than I do looking for girls for me to fuck. Finding girls is much easier. What this thread is about is my resentment for cheating husbands who swing or who try to swing behind their wives' backs. In particular this thread is about my resentment for the ones who want to fuck my wife specifically.