[lovedoctor]

I'm wondering what your swinging history was like before this experience? Have you always been fair, open and honest with each other? Have you respected each other's feelings? Have you been perceptive to each other's needs? Is this attitude a sudden change, or has she progressively become more secretive and selfish?

It's time to examine your relationship. Stop swinging until you can get back on track. Get some counseling - you guys are a long way from the communication you need to make this relationship successful. Good luck.