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inquisitivemale · 04-25-2006, 05:13 PM

I am the male half of a married couple and i wanted to know if i am the bad guy in this situation.

My wife and I have been swinging for over three years. We have had very few problems that came up but have always came through them. We attended a party two months back were this situation came up.
At the party they had a hospitality suite. We were in the room with quite a few other people. A woman was playing with a man she said was her husband and called my wife over. My wife goes over and they both start giving him head. After a minute the other woman gets up and leaves. My wife continues giving him head. This guy is very well endowed. The other women leave and so I have no one to play with since my wife is occupied and I will not leave her alone because I feel that I should be always be near incase she needs me. So I end up sitting there watching my wife have sex with this guy. This goes on for about an hour. Now my wife is not a quiet person when it comes to sex so she was very loud. During this our I had to endure the looks of all the single guys in the room. They wispered, pointed, laughed, and made little coments about me and talked about how their friend was wearing my wife out. Every now and then a woman would come in talk about how she wouldn't be taking that much dick that long. I got tired of it and told them that they were gonna have to finish it up. They said ok. Twenty minutes later they are still going at it. I really break it up now and we go back to our room. After that I just was not in the mood for sex so we went to bed. The guy came and knowcked on our dorr later that night and I sent him away. The next morning we are leaving and my wife and I getr seperated. When I find her She is talking to the same guy and he is giving her his number. I trust my wife and I though she did not keep the number. Now We talked about it on the way home. She tells me she did not enjoy it that much cause he could not really keep it up and she kept having to give him head. We get home and they post the next date for the party and my wife immediately signs us up for attendance. Now fast forward two months. I was cleaning out our messnger folders when I come across her talking to the husband of another couple we play with on the messenger in the archive.
She tells him about what happened but explains it saying I got upset because I was being teased. She made it sound very childish as if it was really just me. She also said that she really enjoyed it. Then she tells him that the guy has been calling her and talking to her. She then tells himn all the things he says and that he wanted to get with her again at the next party. I did not know that he was calling her. We really had a discussion about that. Days later I see that he is still calling her and his number is still in her cell phone address book. After the discussion agian i get her to take it out her phone. She then calls him when I am not around and tells him to stop calling her. Now a true situation.
We go to the party I have to deal with him and his friends again. If they disrepected me then, I feel that they have little respect for mre when I get there. My wife tells me I should move on and get over it. But it stays on my mind. Am I wrong?

04-25-2006, 05:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
inquisitivemale Registered Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 5 Location: portal	Wife doesn't understand my boundary concerns I am the male half of a married couple and i wanted to know if i am the bad guy in this situation. My wife and I have been swinging for over three years. We have had very few problems that came up but have always came through them. We attended a party two months back were this situation came up. At the party they had a hospitality suite. We were in the room with quite a few other people. A woman was playing with a man she said was her husband and called my wife over. My wife goes over and they both start giving him head. After a minute the other woman gets up and leaves. My wife continues giving him head. This guy is very well endowed. The other women leave and so I have no one to play with since my wife is occupied and I will not leave her alone because I feel that I should be always be near incase she needs me. So I end up sitting there watching my wife have sex with this guy. This goes on for about an hour. Now my wife is not a quiet person when it comes to sex so she was very loud. During this our I had to endure the looks of all the single guys in the room. They wispered, pointed, laughed, and made little coments about me and talked about how their friend was wearing my wife out. Every now and then a woman would come in talk about how she wouldn't be taking that much dick that long. I got tired of it and told them that they were gonna have to finish it up. They said ok. Twenty minutes later they are still going at it. I really break it up now and we go back to our room. After that I just was not in the mood for sex so we went to bed. The guy came and knowcked on our dorr later that night and I sent him away. The next morning we are leaving and my wife and I getr seperated. When I find her She is talking to the same guy and he is giving her his number. I trust my wife and I though she did not keep the number. Now We talked about it on the way home. She tells me she did not enjoy it that much cause he could not really keep it up and she kept having to give him head. We get home and they post the next date for the party and my wife immediately signs us up for attendance. Now fast forward two months. I was cleaning out our messnger folders when I come across her talking to the husband of another couple we play with on the messenger in the archive. She tells him about what happened but explains it saying I got upset because I was being teased. She made it sound very childish as if it was really just me. She also said that she really enjoyed it. Then she tells him that the guy has been calling her and talking to her. She then tells himn all the things he says and that he wanted to get with her again at the next party. I did not know that he was calling her. We really had a discussion about that. Days later I see that he is still calling her and his number is still in her cell phone address book. After the discussion agian i get her to take it out her phone. She then calls him when I am not around and tells him to stop calling her. Now a true situation. We go to the party I have to deal with him and his friends again. If they disrepected me then, I feel that they have little respect for mre when I get there. My wife tells me I should move on and get over it. But it stays on my mind. Am I wrong?