 Re: advice for husband needed
i am new to the lifestyle as well, so please take my advice with a grain of salt
i would do the roleplaying thing again. dont do it late at night when you guys need to go to sleep, so it so conversation afterward can take as long as needed tell her that you noticed how much she was turned on by it, ask if she had considered going further. if she says no then that is exactly it
Worst case senario:
you may recieve some strong backlash for this. she may feel threatened or almost like she has been cheated on just for knowing you thought about this.
Slightly less bad senario
depending on how strong her reaction is this may ruin that roleplaying for her
if she does feel like yes this may be something to do, be open and honest about it.
being new i think that i do have a bit of advice that may seem to slip away to those that have been swinging for quite a while, when my wife and i first started we said that we would not be sucked into the lifestyle. but there is a big lifestyle change, we had always communicated well, but now we go out of our way more to be sure that we know how each other feel about things, swinging related and not.
if this is something that she is not going to be into do not force the issue, no amount of sex is worth the love of your life
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