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Originally posted by 4sum
Don't we as husbands of swinging women have the ultimate luxury of having a type of totally self contained Madonna/Whore complex relating entirely to our own Wives? |
4sum, I don't understand what you mean? Very interested though, one of the reasons why I'm here is to learn more about myself.
My point of view on the Madonna/Whore complex is that a swinging husband learns to love his wife as a complete person without having a need to repress her sexuality. A more traditional outlook leads a guy into the idea that he should be with a 'nice' girl for the long term, but that when he wants to have some fun he should go after a cheap slutty tramp. He disparages promiscuous women and he feels threatened when the mother of his children fantasizes about crazy sex because she's supposed to be the nice girl, not the slut.
An entirely valid question would be "Why do you care?" I don't know, I just do. I respect my wife. Everybody in the world doesn't have to, but for whatever reason I need to see respect in any guy who wants to fuck her. Guys with the Madonna/Whore complex who see her as the cheap trashy screw while they are still on the search for the virginal future mother of their children, those guys just piss me off.