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Originally Posted by two ormore We are newbies and went to a club for the first time. We went mostly to observe but ended up meeting a neet guy that invited us to one of the rooms. We declined as we were not positive he was single and we decided if we party with a 3rd he must be single.
How do you tell? Do you just rely on the clubs to do your screening? |
First you have to understand that
most swing clubs do not "screen" their members! At most, they will ask them for a drivers license, which gives NO indication of marital status. Whatever somebody
tells the management they are is what they are, as far as the club is concerned.
Most of the clubs in this area are heavily dependent upon single males for their income. So much so, that if they were ever to start checking their true marital status, they'd be out of business in a month.
My advice to you would be to inform potential play-partners that you don't have sex with a new person on the night you meet, and ask them for a last name and home phone number. (Most guys happily provide the same to any woman they meet through a vanilla site prior to sex, and the rules here should be no different) If he can't or won't provide that for you, or tells you he "doesn't have a phone number listed," take a pass, darlin'...he's married, or living with someone. Anybody who can afford $50-$60 to attend a club can damn well afford to have a phone listed in their name.
The same thing with last names. I understand the desire for privacy and discretion, but these people are proposing to have sex with you. If they're
that concerned with being "private" and "discrete" let them stay home and download porn.
Some people, it seems, don't care about the marital status of single males at swing clubs. They're just there to borrow a "stunt-dick" for a half-hour or so. Others DO care, and they're the ones who need to take a few extra steps to check out prospective partners.