It is truly about being comfortable in your own skin which equals liking/loving yourself for who you are. If you poll the majority (not all - but the majority) of the people in the lifestyle you will find most people are turned on by others because of personality and that they have a good healthy ATTITUDE about themselves.
Yes this is easier said then done - TRUST ME lol - I am someone who is still learning to listen to my own preaching. I to suffer for feeling as though I am the troll under the bridge
and WHY would anyone possibly what to do anything with me, especially have sex!!!!
But seriously, I have learned to start appreciating me for all the wonderful things I am and have to offer others. And when you start to let go of the self-loathing, and dismissave attitude about yourself and embrace the wonderful, sexy, sensual woman that lies inside and you allow her to come out and celebrate life...........well you will begin to feel alive and really begin to experience all the lifestyle has to offer.
Sir Winston Churchill once said - "A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty." If you really take time to think about this just as he quoted..........think of ALL you stand to gain verses the immediate difficulty! So go get out and embrace yourself - and soon you will see everyone else embracing you back!
The Other Mrs. Menage..........