The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Wife wants to swing, I'm afraid if I don't let her she'll be unhappy

jazzyislookin · 04-16-2006, 09:33 PM

Hello,
The Mr. and I are working through this same thing right now so you're not alone. We started our family when we were very young and have only ever been with each other. We have been married 9 years and have three kids.
Yes we missed out on the wild young years so we are at that point where we want to have fun now. However we want to do it together. We don't want our feelings of "missing out on fun" to get in the way of our marriage. Our marriage is most important.
I think you should pay a lot of attention to WesternSwing's post. Those are two very important rules to follow. Listen to the veterans-they know what they are talking about because they have been there.
We have been discussing this lifestyle for about a year and each time we talk we get a greater insight into each others feelings and why we want to do this.

Keep talking! Keep talking! Keep talking!
Keep listening! Keep listening! Keep listening!

Then you can decide whether to jump in the boat or not-best of all you really get to know your partner a whole lot better than assuming what he/she is thinking. I know it seems a little tough right now but if you keep at it then it just gets easier and easier to talk about.

Good luck to you...

04-16-2006, 09:33 PM	#9 (permalink)
jazzyislookin Registered Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 8 Location: Iowa	Re: Advice needed please. Hello, The Mr. and I are working through this same thing right now so you're not alone. We started our family when we were very young and have only ever been with each other. We have been married 9 years and have three kids. Yes we missed out on the wild young years so we are at that point where we want to have fun now. However we want to do it together. We don't want our feelings of "missing out on fun" to get in the way of our marriage. Our marriage is most important. I think you should pay a lot of attention to WesternSwing's post. Those are two very important rules to follow. Listen to the veterans-they know what they are talking about because they have been there. We have been discussing this lifestyle for about a year and each time we talk we get a greater insight into each others feelings and why we want to do this. Keep talking! Keep talking! Keep talking! Keep listening! Keep listening! Keep listening! Then you can decide whether to jump in the boat or not-best of all you really get to know your partner a whole lot better than assuming what he/she is thinking. I know it seems a little tough right now but if you keep at it then it just gets easier and easier to talk about. Good luck to you...