How can I interest my wife in swinging WITHOUT ! being a manipulative SOB....that I have been and that memebrs on this board have made clear to me. My eyes have been opened to my ways...now what can I do?
Is my only recourse to "shut up" forever?
What about this idea? I think this idea may put "the ball" into her corner so to speak......but first a bit of history much of which you will also find in my very first post but that I think I need to state here .
My wife is friends with a guy that is married, but his marriage is very poor and he told me that he is thinking about leaving and that he does not "really" love his wife, whatever that means.
My wife wants only friendship with this guy at this time and has told me but she does think he is good looking although not as good looking as me
He is VERY attracted to my wife, as are all men. He has told her this and has even said stuff like "you make me horny' and you are "very hot" but as I said he respects her boundaries.
He knows that have told my wife to do anything with him that she wants to, should she want to. I did tell her today that I think she should wait until he leaves his wife before she gets physical with him, should she ever desire this. I give members on this board credit for waking me up on this one.
He thinks I am nuts by the way
My wife has the "walls" and "barriers" up and he knows it and because he is a good guy and repects her he has not tired to be "forward" at all. I think this also has to do with the fact that he is still with his wife and he doesn't feel comfortable going after my wife for sex while still with her.
Now for "the idea" ...which I think puts "the ball" into my wifes corner and gives her some real meat to chew on I think.
My wife has a very strong fantasy about being fucked and licked at the same time....I would like to see this one unfold with me as the licker and another man as the one doing doggy. Never tried it but I think it can be done.
Her are my concerns.......
Would it be appropriate for this man to be "the man", if he does leave his wife that is? I don't want him doing this while he is wtih his wife.
He is my wifes good friend and in becoming "the man" the friendship would never be the same again and in fact it could end the friendship altogether. What do you think here? But I don't see why he could not continue to be a good but all be it different kind of friend.
I am also concerned that because they are good friends there is the possibilty that either he, or my my wife, or both ,will "fall in love". I highly doubt that my wife would simply because of our very strong love for each other and for the fact that she said that she would never trade me for her male friend, even IF she got physical with him in the future....which she doubts she will do.
Thanx all